Hello Sweetheart, welcome to my blog.

I remember one day in 2023, I had dropped my kids off at school and returned home. In the quiet of my room, I heard these words “What’s the point? Why not just end it all” I shook it off and went on thinking about other things, but the thoughts persisted and I realised I was actually entertaining the thoughts and the atmosphere in my room was getting heavy so I reached out and called out for help. Was that the end of it - Nope! It happened again. By October, I had been swindled out of a huge amount of money, I was in debt and had been betrayed by a friend, I was crying my heart out and could not see any possible way out. How was I going to cater for my 3 kids? I had failed, everyone was going to laugh at me to scorn - Oh, I was in total despair and was afraid for myself. I had relocated to a new part of the country and did not yet have any friends, the family I thought I had had scolded me needlessly because I was already broken, yet did nothing to help - My feelings of loneliness and despair were reinforced yet again.

I sat quietly in the garden hall of the Nustreams Conference and Culture Center, Ibadan scared and confused but then suddenly I heard that calm but strong voice - “Adeayo, You will not drown!” I turned around to look at the window; was there someone there? Of course there wasn’t. “I don’t understand!” I said. “Adeayo, You will not drown!” and then suddenly, I understood. I saw the children of Israel at the Red Sea. I saw myself at my Red Sea. I understood - “Adeayo, You are not an Egyptian, you will not drown. You are the King’s Daughter, you will cross over this Red Sea.”

And, that is what I am here to tell you today, my darling! You will not drown! You may not even know the Lord Jesus, but if your heart yearns for Him right now, You will not drown. Like Peter, all you have to do is reach out to Him. The Israelites stood at the well, but did you notice that not all of them were Jews, there was a mixed multitude who followed them yet enjoyed the safety and protection of God.

I am here offering you that same safety and assurance. It does not matter how hard life is or how badly you have lived your life- your mistakes maybe so damning and you don’t see a way out of the mess - look again! The fact that you are reading this is the flicker of light in
that dark tunnel you are currently in. I am the life line to ensure you don’t drown - and if you pay closer attention; you would see many more.

So my darling,
Don’t Take your life, Talk to me
Remember, You will not drown!
Love and Blessings
Adeayo

The Blind Spot Effect: How Leaders Can Recognize and Address Their Own Biases


As leaders, we strive to make informed decisions, but our biases can often lead us astray. The Blind Spot Effect refers to the unconscious biases that affect our judgement, often perpetuating systemic inequalities, and then we wonder why we have dysfunctional systems. Recognizing and addressing these biases is crucial for empathetic leadership… and as you know, I am big on love. I am not ashamed to express love even in the workplace.

The Problem with biases is that they can:

- Distort decision-making
- Create unequal opportunities
- Parent a toxic work or national culture

A few ideas to what The Solution could like would be:

1. Self-reflection: Schedule regular time for introspection, exploring your thoughts, feelings, and actions. This would be good break out time at retreats

2. Diverse perspectives: Surround yourself with positive diverse voices actively seeking feedback and new insights after all in the multitude of counsel there is safety- wise counsel I must add.

3. Bias training: Engage in training programs, workshops, or online resources to educate yourself on biases and their impact.

4. Accountability: Share your biases with a trusted mentor or colleague, asking them to hold you accountable.

You must understand that recognizing and addressing biases is a continuous journey for leaders - we never truly see the whole picture all at once, and there is a natural temptation to put on tinted lenses. By acknowledging the Blind Spot Effect and taking proactive steps, you can create a more inclusive environment, foster empathy, and make informed decisions. Remember, biases are not a sign of weakness, but a natural part of being human. It's how you address them that matters.

So take those tinted lenses off and

- Schedule time for self-reflection
- Seek diverse and positive perspectives
- Engage in bias training and definitely
- Hold yourself accountable


Love and Blessings
Adeayo